In times of great need, humans may instinctively reach out for a rescue. It can be to a higher power, or if there are people nearby, to the closest person who can provide immediate assistance. Historically, the International Morse code SOS was the most famous of maritime radio distress signals, and today is still used as a visual distress signal. For those of us in peril, our hope is that we will be rescued by competent individuals who are willing to accept our SOS and provide us the exact kind of help we need. In essence, what we are asking for is that our lifeline be composed of people who are prepared and that we can rely upon under any circumstances. Our hope is that these support people will be:
But where does one find such a person, and how does one summon these nurturing individuals into our lives? Better yet, how can we become SOS people ourselves?
Unfortunately, the company we keep is often indicative of what type of help we can rely on. The saying, “Birds of a feather, flock together” is not too far off in assessing how most of us find our rescue. The problem with this premise is that often times our own bias prevents us from seeing clearly that the people who most resemble us may not often be the most reliable. To understand why bias affects our perspective, we must first learn a little about trust, what it is, and why we gravitate towards people we trust. For people with addictions and bad habits, misplaced trust can be one of the greatest obstacles to recovery. And for people who are hurting emotionally and physically, knowing whom the right person is to trust becomes crucial to ensure survival in the direst of circumstances.
Couragekeepers is a program designed to help individuals who have faced crisis in their lives and want to develop resiliency and courage in the face of adversity and want to be associated with like -minded, positive and resilient people. It is a program that is intended to nurture and expand the circle of SOS individuals in one’s life, and is a model to help one become the kind of person who continues to attract uplifting people in their lives. These quality people can be family members, clergy, counselors, mentors, historical figures, and /or trusted friends. They can come from all walks of life, have varying degrees of education, and may be of any race or ethnic origin, but they all have one thing in common, and that is that they are all highly evolved humans who have developed compassion, empathy and are also grounded in life, meaning and purpose. These quality people value constancy, companionship and commitment and are willing to be stalwart in doing what is right, under all circumstances.
Sounds too perfect? Well, these people do exist. They walk among us, and they are always striving to be better. They are people who have found their calling, captured their purpose, and are secure in their standing in life and their convictions. They are the COURAGEKEEPERS, the keepers of the flame of faith when darkness sets in and no hope seems to be in sight. They do not rely on themselves alone for reserves of strength, for they know that the “arm of flesh” is weak. They rely on God to be their inspiration and sustenance and then they rely on time, experience, and wisdom to be the foundation for all other positive decision making in their lives. The wisdom they rely upon are unequivocal, universal principles which have served mankind throughout the ages, and have proven to have societal and moral value to all cultures and peoples.
Join me, Debra Norwood, and my partner, Carolyn Bendall on September 23, 2017 for the launch of our new program, Couragekeepers, a coaching method for peacebuilding that will help individuals searching for spiritual and emotional peace learn the tools of conflict resolution, anger management and peacebuilding. Using all the latest empirical research in psychoneuroimmunology, brain health and heart health, as well as keeping things light with the original and happiness building formula for #humor4peace created by Debra Norwood, participants will be guided in methods to dispel automatic negative thinking and will be given tools to promote resiliency in order to prepare them to become peer mediators and fellow peacebuilders.
As we emulate the character and nature of The Prince of Peace Himself, we will learn to have more self-compassion, non-judgement, patience and self-awareness. Participants will learn how to develop mindfulness and learn how to meditate and pray more effectively by first clarifying what it is they are truly yearning for. This is an effective program for individuals facing life challenges such as life-threatening illnesses, addiction, anxiety and resistant depression. Along with methods for brain health choices and heart health habits that are medically sound, suggestions for physical and emotional clearing may include referrals for Brain SPECT imaging, trusted medical doctors and/or mind/body medicine alternatives for self-care. Couragekeepers is also a program that applies tried and true principles in habit-breaking and addiction recovery, and may refer some participants to additional 12 step groups that have been properly researched and guaranteed to be aligned with proper faith based principles.
Join us! Together we can learn to not only become Couragemakers, but also Couragekeepers, and become trail blazers creating a society of people who can support one another in these troubled times with principles that promote soundness of mind and courage of heart!
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Your life is going okay. You look in the mirror and you think, 'No, this isn't where I am supposed to be.' Or, perhaps you see where the world is going and fear you just are not going to 'make it'. There are so many different reasons that one sits back and looks over their everyday life and find frustration. Others may think you have it all together, but, you know the real back story. I see people who have no direction, no compass to direct their life and they are very discouraged, perhaps even depressed, as they see the world 'burn' around us.
I had a co-worker many years ago that was so negative that I'd actually come home almost in a stupor of depression myself! Her outlook was completely negative in all that was around her. She had a doting husband, a cute fun car, cute clothes, was adorable herself (and her husband was adorable, too), they had a sufficient income for Southern California; but by no means were they wealthy. But, she could only find the negative in the world. When a customer came into the store, she could turn a switch and be happy as she waited on the customer. And, for a while after she was still happy, but then the negativity would begin again. (I really like busy days, she was happy all day!) She also had an infectious smile, when she smiled, her entire face smiled. I knew, deep down in her a very happy person was waiting to come out.
Now, your day may not be quite that drastic; but we all have something that is eating away at our happiness. First off, this is a faith based courage site. We will not hide it, we will not shy away from it. I have seen and experienced what faith can do to change a person. Therefore, I will not rationalize it away. I have taught in church for so many years I don't even want to count (for fear that it will depress me...you smiled, didn't you?...laughter, a good cure.). In turn, I have also sat through many, many lessons! Some of these lessons turn into a chalkboard filled with all of the things that we should be doing; and aren't. The class begins to realize that only a couple of the things listed are actually happening in their life. And, then the thought of chocolate is all that comes to mind as wallowing in the horribleness of one's life comes to light. When I teach this type of lesson, I then erase the board and write the two things that we really need to do. Pray. Read your scriptures. That's it. That is all we need to do. Simple. The problem comes when we TRY to do all of the other things, without prayer and scripture reading being a part of our lives. When we pray and read our scriptures, we are then compelled to do the other things on the lists. It no longer becomes weights hanging around our necks, it becomes a trait within our personality.
So, to begin our goal setting journey, let's set aside the time for prayer and reading your scriptures. There will be those that say, 'Oh, this must be done in the morning.' Yeah, they didn't have to get two adults out the door for work and four children to school. No worries. Your time may be after everyone goes to bed at night, you know instead of watching TV. Your time may be in the car with audio scriptures, or time alone with the radio off and having a wonderful conversation with your Father in Heaven. Whatever time you choose, CHOOSE. Then, write it down. Yes. Write it down. In fact, keep track for at least 27 days. (The experts say 21 days, but, let's go the extra mile.) After that, you may not have to write it down. Or, you may be one that likes to check it off of a list; in that case, continue to write it down.
Basically, just do it!
“Let us not treat lightly [His word]. … [It is] one of the most valuable gifts He has given us. … Recommit … immerse yourselves in them daily. … Read them in your families and teach your children to love and treasure them. Then prayerfully and in counsel with others, seek every way possible to encourage the members of the Church to follow your example.” Ezra Taft Benson